Written by Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee
Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee
What is on my mind this morning? Well ... a number of things like always :)
I am thinking of people who are in dead-end relationships. You know the ones we watch through the wasted years of their life. One is using the other for money, and the things they can't afford but can get by making the other 'pay' for their company.
Just saying for example ... a man who wants a woman so badly and can't form a relationship with one ... he keeps going back to the only one woman who will take him so, she can use him. She tells him she's the only woman he ... can get. She's so cocksure of herself ... he pays big for her affection which is full of anger, hatred. It's all he can get so, he continually wastes at least 6 years of his life after numerous break-ups ... she is the only woman who 'seemingly wants' him.
This woman is always sick with diarrhea so she can't leave the house or go anywhere with the man ... always something wrong with her excepting on holidays when she can gain something ... her birthday ... or a big paycheck is coming. When on a shopping trip she will make the man buy expensive things for her by throwing them in the shopping cart ... if she does go out to eat ... order the most expensive ... complain that it isn't as good as her cooking.
She is the woman who always makes out like a fat cat ... never contributing to the relationship anything but, angry ... hateful conversations that change the personality of the man. He becomes angry at the world ... doesn't notice he changes when he is with that particular woman. The woman wants total control of him ... she constantly tells him how to run his business ... she's never had experience or knowledge to give advice.
You've seen these relationships in your own families, loved ones, friends. You see how negative they are ... how someone is fooled by others who are using them. You can't do anything about it ... the man would become extremely upset with his friends, family ... accuse them of not knowing anything.
This woman most likely has a life insurance policy on him ... she got hold of his most personal information some years ago ... 'helping' the man ... then taking all the information home with her.
I feel that if someone constantly has diarrhea for at least 6 years is shi________ someone to keep from going out on dates, doing things with him. That should tell the man something ... wouldn't you hate it if and everytime you wanted to take your 'loved' one on a trip, date, go out to eat supper ... they conveniently had diarrhea every time? For 6 years? Isn't there an unheard message somewhere in this? Wouldn't that woman be thin?
Patterns ... one has to watch out for patterns. People follow patterns ... get set in their ways ... some ways they think no one sees. Sadly, the ones who should see are the ones affected in a negative way.
If you do such ... remember you'd be surprised at the one or ones who 'see you for what you are' ... and you never know it. You never know at least one pair of eyes are watching you, sensing you, knowing you are ... doing wrong, being bad, deceitful. They are the quiet ones who won't ever let you know. They are the ones who see your patterns ... who wouldn't ever trust you to touch their lives.
Why do you think there are detectives ... people who are constantly seeking answers to crime. They watch, listen, sense. A lot of us are naturally like that when we see 'off' things in others. Our senses go on alert ... we know when others are bad. The sad thing is ... when our senses quit working for whatever reasons ... maybe denial?
The man sometimes opens his eyes and by his talk you know he is aware of what the woman does. He does something that is amazing ... he will close his eyes again ... to be used all over again. Because ... he thinks he can't ever find another 'good' woman.
Life is sad ... there are always human, animal predators waiting to get an animal, person at their weakest. They know when to strike ... that's how they survive. Don't believe me? Wake up to reality ... Life can be beautiful when you never look beneath to see all the ugly. I promise you it goes on ... we can't control it. We can constantly strive to keep it from touching our own little worlds.
Open eyes ... open minds are also, keys to survival in Life. If we live in denial ... we give others permission to use us, walk on us. They are happy while we are in constant distress ... they don't care. Thankfully I learned this many years ago ... sadly I see it all the time studying Life, people.
When one has walked in those shoes ... get out of them ... their eyes are always open ... their ears always hearing ... their minds/Hearts always sensing the good/bad in others. Are your eyes open? Your ears? Your mind/Heart?
I hope so ... don't let others use you to be happy while you suffer in silence, cry alone in this world, take your sunshine away. Open your eyes to light ... come out of the darkness to live, breathe freely.
These are my thoughts today. Does that mean I am a relationship doctor? an expert on anything? Absolutely not! I am nobody but me ... Gloria with another opinion. Does it mean I am always right? Nope! Do I offer you advice for your life? Hell no ... one life is enough ... my life.
You make your own decisions, don't let me influence you. I just write things to think about that might open someone's eyes to things they need to face in their lives. I don't tell anyone anything to do. I entertain by writing. I write about my life ... the things, people that touch, affect it. I can't write another person's life ... they have to do that themselves.
My life and the many shoes I've walked in have ... shaped, formed my opinions ... I still have an open mind, open eyes and ears ... I'm always learning, changing my opinions when I'm shown better.
I write about real Life ... the Life I walk in, experience. I am a writer ... I have to write. I choose to write reality ... real things. Sometimes if I write fictional ... I let the reader know. I don't sugar-coat Life ... because there comes a time Life isn't sweet. Life happens ... and it can be wonderful ... bad things happen too. Bad, sad things happen too ... things we can't control.
It just goes back to trying to make Life the best you can ... be the best you can be. Care, love, help others.
Think of a wonderful keyring we'd all like to have ... with individual keys on it ... each labeled: Love Key, Caring Key, Giving Key, Protecting Key, Make Dreams Come True Key, Compassion Key, Empathy Key ... keys that are important in our lives.
Notice I didn't write any 'bad' keys ... Life can do that at any time with its twisted roads, paths it throws us on at any time. Life is like that.
You make your own decisions in your life. Only you know what you want, wish for, hope to have. You have the power to make it the best you can ... it begins inside you.
Note by this Author:
I am sad when I see the things I wrote about. I've seen what other people do to other people in the name of Love. It isn't love at all ... it's using another person for a stepping stone to get their selfish needs, wants met. They never care how they stomp that stepping stone down while they walk in Life.
People can be loving, kind, giving ... they also, can be ugly, mean, cruel, brutal. It's a fact of Life ... one has to be aware others can, will do anything. Don't be like I was ... thinking surely 'no one would do such a thing'. Oh yes, they will. Through my time I have been amazed, shocked.
I love the good things in Life ... I'm watchful of the bad I know is lurking somewhere whether we want it or not. That's Life ...
