There Comes The Time One Has To Ask For Help ...

 

Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee/@GeeGranny on Twitter

This is what happens when family dies out, one has no family support system left for when one day when they need them.

One of my Facebook Friends has been trying to help us with the post on Facebook below.  I had mentioned doing a GoFundMe page ... but, was hesitant because so many people have abused it.  

I didn't know if anyone would recognize we really need help until Skip can be alright again.  I don't have anyone to help us, to go to ... to ask for money.  I don't have any way of paying it back.  

I need to purchase tires for the pickup ... the trips (80 miles) back, forwards to Raleigh have wreaked havoc on already tires that need to be replaced.  I have no way of buying them.  

Skip just had surgery last Thursday, and there are complications.  We are having to make extra trips to, from Raleigh to his doctors, hospital, tests.  He may have surgery again.

Since January, Skip has suffered a stroke, mini-strokes.  He went into congestive heart failure, pneumonia.  He had a pacemaker put in .... then, 2 heart stents.  Then, his kidney shut down and a uretheral stent was put in.  He has been in the hospital 3 times, and has almost died 3 times.  Fluid built back up again around his heart.  Now, he has complications from the surgery to do with his right kidney, we'll know this week if he will have surgery again.  

I will have surgery on Wednesday, this week (April 20th).  It's amazing what has happened since the beginning of this year ... we have sailed through storm after storm ... and still doing it.  We are staying strong, and I'm strong while Skip can't be.  I'm there, always ... for him.  I watch over him even when he is sleeping.  I try to be his guardian angel in this world.

We are doing okay with getting our meds ... we need help with gas, food, and tires, and an oil change. Skip worries about the oil, has all through being very ill.  This is the only way I know to help us, that's to let people know.  I pray that you will.  

Maybe you could send Skip a card ... to bring a smile to his face.  That would mean so, so much.  I told my friends on Facebook that I tell Skip that they are all caring, sending messages ... but, actually holding caring, love in his hands, looking at a card would mean the world, and be a wonderful surprise.

I'm asking for financial help from strangers who come to read me, I know.  I don't have people I know, or family to go to.  The few friends who have helped us ... I can't ask anymore of them ... they have their own life they need their money for.  I don't want to take advantage, or make them feel they have to do something.  They've been so good to us, and I'm so grateful.

I would like to tell younger people to treasure their family/friends support system.  Treat it like a garden ... so, it's big.  You don't want to be like me ... grow older, have no one.  The very family members I love, knew would be there for me ... have all died.  I don't know the family members left, I never grew up, associated with them.  My only family left is Skip, and our 2 Pups, Kissy and Camie.

This is what happens when one becomes older, finds out there isn't any financial help for senior citizens.  I asked for help at our local social services.  They gave us $123 for food, monthly .... they cut it down to $111 monthly.  They said we can't get financial help because there aren't children in the house.  They said we could get on a 2 year waiting list for a place to live, and we'd have to give up our dogs.  

I've exhausted everything, burned up badly needed gas ... including completely losing my pride.  I will say I'm not beaten down ... I have to be strong for us.  I won't feel bad for having to go public to ask for help, I have no choice.  At first, I was so embarrassed ... it's past being embarrassed ... all is too serious, now.  

Each month I worry about getting bills paid so, nothing will be turned off, especially not while Skip is so sick.

If anyone wants to help us, please don't feel I'm begging you to, or pressuring.  I understand how expensive all is today, how much everything costs ... you have families to raise, and have to live.  If like I've done in the past when I never worried about money ... one has extra money to help someone in real need ... I hope you will.  I have done that many times in my life because I wanted to.  Maybe there's someone that will feel the same way.  

Below, is what my Facebook Friend did for us to try to help us.  So far, not many have helped, and I know they have their own life to take care of, and I understand.  

By Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee

This is the information below, she put on her Facebook, and on mine:

Becky Brooks

April 10 at 4:35pm · 

Friends of Gloria Faye Brown Bates She really needs our help. I know she does not want to ask, so I am asking for her. 

For my friends who do not know Gloria, she has been having a rough go of it lately. Her husband Skip has been seriously ill and in and out of the hospital at least 3 times since Jan. They both have health issues and money is in short supply right now. Please help if you can.

She needs anything you can give. If you want to put $1 in an envelope and put a stamp on it along with a note, every little bit will help. My guess is that she would appreciate even a note or post card from someone who cares.

Things that could help:
An uplifting note or card with or without a small amount of cash

Giftcards: walmart (meds & food & Tires needed for car) Amazon (almost anything) Petsmart (pet food for their 2 dogs)

Money sent through PayPal gloriapaintsat@yahoo.com  (be sure to put the word ... 'at' ... after gloriapaintsat)

How to send it:

Mailing Address for Gloria & Skip Bates
268 Beasley Rd
Louisburg, NC 27549

Email for E gift cards or PayPal

gloriapaintsat@yahoo.com

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