Friday, September 21, 2012



By Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee

Do you know?  Yesterday was a very unusual day, not only that... so, was Wednesday evening.

I was there at two separate incidents to know 'it was all true', it all would have been hard to believe ... if I hadn't seen, or heard it... myself.  I saw, I believe, I know... this all to be the truth.

It began on Wednesday evening when I saw a woman who is the kindest soul you've ever met... be attacked verbally by another woman that I'll call 'movie star woman'... for something this woman has always done in the past.

She was simply guilty of being playful in a good way like I've always seen her do.  She playfully asked several people if they had missed her?  She got an unusual answer that made her think 'uh oh'.......

The 'movie star woman' told her something, then... added the 'uh oh' part.  She said 'I don't know what the others thought'......

I watched, listened as she wondered aloud 'why' would her friend make such a statement?  She went on to forget until.... her friend emailed her to tell her off.... saying she was criticizing her, and her reputation where everyone would see.... because soon several big companies would be 'looking, studying her'.

The poor woman couldn't say anything ... she instantly went into shock.  It didn't do me any good to talk to her... she sat there, unhearing, hurt.. and in disbelief.  How my heart hurt for her.  I couldn't believe what I'd just witnessed... I didn't know 'movie star woman' was like that!

Movie star woman is a wonderful person, though during the past months she has changed to be something she isn't... she is playing the game... so, she can become famous.  I did tell her this... 'people who climb so high up... can/will fall hard'.

How do I know?  In my life experiences/lessons... I learned in my younger years when 'I thought I was so much'... that life has a way of 'bringing you down... to wake you up', to not step on others, mistreat them 'as you go up'.... 'they are the ones whose gentle hands will help buffer your fall'.

All the woman did was to be herself and do the same old playful thing she always did... she didn't know that this woman was in the spotlight... to be judged.  She truly is... she has been in a competition doing what she loves best... and is trying to make it to the top.  That's wonderful.... what isn't wonderful is how she devastated my friend's world.  She is still trying to recover from it.

All my friend could do ... was to apologize after reading the email she got... she sat and cried her heart out.  What did she do?  I'm witness that she didn't do anything wrong.

She was accused of criticizing, and trying to make this woman appear bad, her friends bad 'to the world'..... with the one little statement my friend made.... 'did you miss me?'

Shame on you for doing that, ' Movie Star Woman'.  My friend, who was your friend, loved you, cared about you when you were ... nobody.  Not only that, after you revealed your real self to her... she still loved, cared about you.

She didn't sit to judge you, she went on to accept 'you, as the beautiful person she saw', instead of dwelling on the 'bad' things about you.

Shame on you..... for hurting my friend.  I'll say it one more time.... shame on you!

This is 'time one'... that you've hurt my friend.... 'three is Granny Gee's magic number'......  I hope you won't mistakenly talk to her like that again.  Shame on you, Movie Star Woman......  Shame on you.

Yesterday, I had opportunity to watch an older friend of mine be verbally abused by someone who tries to give everyone, including me..... the impression that he is a Christian, God-fearing man.

The only thing is.... that I'd been hearing ...of...  him verbally abusing this older friend of mine... but, I didn't take it to heart.  Heck, we 'all know how older people are.... why, we just can't believe everything they say'..... 'hey, you know they are 'old', they don't know what they are talking about'.

Well... this older person was talked down to, talked to 'worst than a dog'.... guess what?

I was sitting right there listening, watching... as I felt such shock, surprise that this 'fine, upstanding citizen of the community, big Christian man among his family, friends'...... verbally abuse this older person... I listened as he talked so hateful, ugly over the speakerphone on my older friend's cellphone.

My mouth did open wide... I didn't believe I was hearing what I heard.  Mr. Christian Man.... maybe next time you'll be recorded so, 'your fine friends' can hear what a 'sermon you preach'.

I'd been hearing this in the past and I 'knew' there was something to it.... I 'know' this older person.  This person is a good person, he would 'bend over backwards' to be good to someone, to go out of his way to help.  If he gives you his word, you can bank on it.  He isn't known as a 'Christian'... but, I bet you he is 'more Christian'.... than that man will ever hope to be.

What that Christian man didn't know this time... there was a witness who respected him until... yesterday .. when it ended.

There's no respect left now... though to be fair toward the big Christian man.... he does have alot of good qualities, and has done alot of good things.  He sure looks sweet, innocent... so, God-loving... such a big, good family person... he is all those things.

So.... honestly the Christian man is a 'good' man, for real.... though he does do bad things such as talk very ugly to older people... my older friend isn't the only one.

After yesterday... I believe the other things I've been told... why, I just saw, heard it happen... I was there.  I 'even heard some of the same words that he supposedly spoke' to some other older people.

So, 'why' did he be so ugly to the older man?  Then... keep calling back to see if the older man was all right?  Why?  He told on himself as he kept calling back to make sure the older man was okay.  My heart broke for the older man...  Shame on you, Mr. Big Christian man.....

This older person has told me several times in the past that this happens from time to time.  Oh... I did forget, I did know personally of one more time this happened.... out of the blue.

Does this Christian man need a scapegoat of some sort?  All I can say is.... Granny Gee is 'pissed off' at this man..... 'big time'.  This is her friend who is being verbally abused.... then, it all be 'swept under the rug' as if it never happened.... with the big Christian man going his merry way like he never done a thing.  I'm saying 'it'd better stop'.

The Christian man is thinking 'no one knows I'm verbally abusing this older man'....  Hey, Mr. Christian Man.... Granny Gee has listened to you talk ugly to her friend, talk down to him .... this is a college-educated person who has been in the military, is a veteran... something you've never done in your life.... 'who are you' to do this to someone who has always liked, respected you?

Someone 'who protected you from Granny Gee telling you off, telling you just how ugly you've been?  Thank him for me not telling you 'just how ugly you were'.... next time I'll tell everyone so, they will know you have a dark side, also.  I know you don't want them to know you talk ugly to older people.... why, all those older people in your community think you are 'the finest thing'.

I respect my older friend, so... for now.... this has been the second time I've been witness.... 'three' is my number.....  I'm going to not intervene.  But, I am going to say this to you, Mr. Big Christian Man................................... Shame On You!  Shame on you.

Granny Gee will say it again and... stand by her words... Shame On You, Movie Star Woman.....

Shame on you, Mr. Big Christian Man......

I hold my ground here.  I know what I just wrote to be absolutely true.  Knowing my friends, acquaintances... they would have been as upset as I... at witnessing such.  Some of you may have stepped in...  I couldn't at risk of losing dear, dear friends whom I love with my heart.

I can say it again.... Shame On You!

1 comment:

  1. I will say it too! Shame on you Christain man and Shame on you too Movie Star Woman!! Remember all these people on your way up because you are going to meet them coming down! Some day you may be old just like these people. Do you want people talking to you that way? Remember the Golden Rule! Treat others as you want to be treated! OK Granny Gee--that is what I want to say this morning! Love, Ms. Nancy