Friends... everyday and public friends... you know the ones you see, meet and greet and exchange conversation when you are 'out in the world'... away from home. They can make you happy just by seeing them and getting to talk to them. You exchange information and jokes and comments on this and on that... you both walk away and enter your 'own world' again, until..........................................
You meet up with a best friend, which really are 'few and far between'. You may share lunch or go shopping or just spend time together. After all... best friends are just like family... you share so much of yourself with them and you trust them with just about everything... they are your best friend! These are your 'little-closer friends'... where they are trusted with just alittle more than public friends.
Then ...there's the 'BEST FRIEND'....
I can't name a 'BEST FRIEND'.... because these could be the friends who 'know you too well, know all of your weaknesses, secrets' and .........................my Grandma Alma and my mama told me that 'familiarity ...breeds comtempt'.
These are the people you see ... well, you see... like on Jerry Springer show. These are your life-changing friends... these are your friends you..yourself... yes, you.... hand over all your most prized and special things in life.... to.
After all... BEST FRIENDS .. are the ones who 'play the game' best... the Life game. They are the ones who know how to take what they want and choose what they want in life. They are the ones you see around every person who has a 'best friend'...... smiling the sweetest... caring the most for their friend... so darn agreeable no matter what that friend says or does... they are the ones who will fight the hardest for their friend... because 'after all'.........one day they will own and have what that friend has... they have to fight for their 'future investments'.
'Best Friends'...... become jealous of your possessions, your husband or wife and your children and pets..and your home... and money. The sweeter they are... the more they 'want of your life'. After all... 'honey catches more flies'...... my Grandma Alma told me that, too.
All the time you are trusting them... you are just 'handing over ammunition' for them to just take care of you once and for all.......'when the time comes'. It's the easiest battle anyone could be in... everything is 'just handed on a golden platter (not silver... after all ..this is your 'best' friend!)' ...right into your best friend's hands.
He/she doesn't have to do a thing but, 'stand there'........ they don't even have to say 'thank-you' for...... the 'gift of your life'. All the time they are biding their time as to 'when..they will decide to take over your life'.......... you are bestowing money, clothes and good meals on them and... continuing to tell them your deepest secrets...making them more 'angry and jealous inside'...... until it all comes to a head.
You are 'fattening them up for the kill'.................. you are the prey... their prey. You don't even know it... you just hand them 'food' to help them ..fatten 'you'... up.
You think you are loved and admired and the ground you walk on ... means something to them. It's not even funny.... you are fattening yourself up to them to 'kill' you...'take you out of the picture'... so, they can just slip into your place ...that easily... and kick back and enjoy your life ...which has become their life now.
'As The World Turns'....................(soap operas on tv all these years have been tutorials for how to be a BEST FRIEND).... they help us live 'Days Of Our Life'. I watched them too, as a child with my Grandma Alma... though I went on to become disgusted with them as I grew older. I keep an eye on the ones who watch soaps. :)))) You might best, too!
I grew up in this world with beautiful, strong women who 'knew' how to play the Game of Life ..the best. They were the rulers in my young world.... young, beautiful and strong women. No matter when most became older... they didn't have alot to 'their name'. But....... let us not forget 'what they did have all through the years'....... that didn't always belong to them... took care of them and made their life good ..no worries until........ they became so old... that they couldn't ever be a ....BEST FRIEND again....... the rose faded and ...now, it takes too long to look harder to 'see' it, to see what it once looked like when in its glory.
The charm has gone... oh, once in a while one will see it... it's like the glint of fire off a diamond.... it's so brief..you wonder if you really saw it. It's a good thing we all have ...photos........ that is our proof, validation... of how we all... used to be..... beautiful and so alive!
These BEST FRIENDS are the ones who become authorities on 'YOUR' life and 'KNOW' what your husband, children and pets' needs ...best......... and 'will go on with their generous selves'... to 'provide' all 'their needs'.
I used to have 'best friends' as a younger person......... the only friends I've had through the years since learning them........... are my public friends whom I expect nothing of nor do they expect anything from me...... and my very few..........real friends whom I can count on 'half' a hand.... we just go on with our own lives and when we want to... we will do something together and have fun.. and don't get into the other's 'private' life, their life in their homes that is... only theirs... my life in my home..mine. We have RESPECT for each other.... that's the most important word after the LOVE and CARING words. We are 'there' always.. and we come closer when 'we know we are really needed'.... these are REAL FRIENDS... real friends are 'perfect enough'... for me.
REAL FRIENDS... you know the ones no one has enough of. They are your quiet and unassuming friends... they are 'there' and they don't have to yell out 'hey ..look at me! hey.. I'm right here!' These are the people that you can easily go on and overlook because... they are just so quietly living their own life never trying to get into yours.... they are minding their own business and never trying to become an authority on yours. They are constantly sensing and listening and feeling without saying so... they keep a pulse on their family members, and all their loved ones without invading their privacy. They somehow 'know'.... when they are needed. My real friend in life is Ms Nancy.... and I am her real friend.
Creative friends... or should I say Creative 'Friend'.... instead of 'friends'? How many people have one creative friend? I'm betting they don't very often. I have the first creative friend who 'does just like I do'........ I create things for her... and to my amazement... she creates things back for me! I've always given so much of what I have painted, drawn and crafted never expecting anything in return and never getting anything in return excepting if there was a prior agreement of monies or services. My creative friend in life is Tori. She and Ms Nancy.. are indeed both special to my heart.
Friends........ there are all kinds of people whom you can put in different catagories... public friend, best friend, real friend, private friend, work friend, pool friend, gym friend..... When you decide to choose the ones closest to you, your heart, your life and loved ones.... choose wisely.
You are right! You are my real friend and I am your real friend. I know you are a private person and I respect that. I figure if you want me to know something, you will tell me. I won't ask but you know that already. I love you my friend! Love, Ms. Nancy
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