CREMATION... AND WISHES 'IF AND WHEN'...
Wednesday, 28 December, 2011
I was just sitting here thinking about what Skip and I had been talking about 'when and if' one day, one of us would be gone.
I think what evoked those thoughts was watching on the news about the funeral of a man who died in a car wreck. His young son was standing there speaking of him at the funeral service, his dad was his best friend.
Skip and I have decided that 'when' that time came for one of us (people have to do this from time to time.. though of course, it hurts)....... we want to be cremated... just simply cremated.
We were talking about not having a public service where people come to 'view' the deceased. We definitely don't want that no more than we'd want someone to come to watch us ...sleep.
We were talking about how we are so private in our life that... that wouldn't be appropriate for us. We just want the other to simply have the other... cremated. No fuss, no unnecessary frills.
We just want no more than what I just wrote... those are our wishes 'if and when'.
I was just reading this to Skip and he ...like I ... just agreed.... our wishes are simple as that.... cremation without having a public viewing... just simply bring home our ashes and place them in 'a special spot'... that's meaningful to the other.
Quietly, just ever so quietly we would want to go... without all the crowds of people standing there laughing and talking... which to alot of people that's a 'good' thing... to us, we prefer quietness, and privacy... just as if we were asleep in our bedroom.
These are our wishes... we both want the same 'if and when' that day comes. I really hope it's many, many years from now. We both love life!
I just read your wishes for "if and when" one of you go. I assume that would still be the case if in the unlikely event that would be what you would want for the both of you. Love, Ms. Nancy
ReplyDeleteGloria, I LOVE your writing! I laughed out loud at this:
ReplyDelete>>We were talking about not having a public service where people come to 'view' the deceased. We definitely don't want that no more than we'd want someone to come to watch us ...sleep.<<
I have NEVER heard this phrased just so before, but it is PERFECT!
Fortunately or unfortunately I'm not sure which, I don't plan to be buried or cremated,I am donating my body to the university so students may practice on me (that is if I have any good parts left by then). My children are to have a party with very loud music and are to enjoy the day. I have told them this for many years, so hopefully by the time I go this will be normal for them to do this,I want them to celebrate my life not mourn for me. Mary M
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